Expectations vs. Reality


One of my stumbling blocks as a writer/partner/friend/human-on-this-planet is my inability to handle a situation when my expectations don’t match¬†my reality. You know in¬†(500) Days of Summer when Tom (Joseph Gordon-Levitt’s character)¬†fantasizes about certain situations only to be punched in the gut by reality? Yeah, that’s me. On the daily.¬†I’m constantly creating these expected¬†scenarios in my brain. And, frankly, it’s exhausting. It’s also frequently impossible for people/situations/myself to¬†ever fully meet¬†these expectations.

I think this has held me¬†way back in my writing life. (Don’t get me started on my dating life. Oy.) Because I have these unrealistic expectations for what I¬†should be writing like and how people¬†should be responding to my writing. And then– when those expectations¬†collapse around me– I get discouraged and quit. I think this video by Ira Glass¬†describes the phenomenon well.

Ira Glass on Storytelling from David Shiyang Liu on Vimeo.

My favorite line from the video:

[Your] taste, the thing that got you into the game, is still killer. And your taste is why your work disappoints you. A lot of people never get past this phase, they quit. Most people I know who do interesting, creative work went through years of this. We know our work doesn’t have this special thing that we want it to have.

So, I’ll keep writing.¬†Even though I¬†know what I¬†am writing isn’t¬†there¬†yet. Even though, in order to get there, I have to accept reality and be patient with myself.

An introduction.


Hello and welcome to the¬†writing blog and portfolio website of Emily Abigail Krugh (pronounced crew’). ¬†Here are some¬†things you should probably know about me in order to understand my writing perspective a bit better.

  1. I’m 29 years old and live in a tiny white house with blue trim near downtown¬†Cincinnati, Ohio. My home¬†was built in 1890 and is¬†the¬†perfect size for me, my pup¬†Harper, and my cat Basil. It has a little fenced-in backyard which (much to my chagrin) Harper¬†hates. I’m not sure if it’s the grass or the fact that she’s just a city pup. Either way, I can often be heard coaxing her into the yard in the early morning and begging her to ‘man up and go to the potty’.
  2. I’m a serial monogamous. This has resulted in a lot of …intriguing…dating ventures. I often write about those ventures. Some might even want to label me boy-crazy. I would neither confirm nor deny this statement. However, I have¬†been called the T. Swift of fiction writing. I’ll let you chew on that for a minute.
  3. My background and current day job is in the education realm. I taught high school English for three years at a local charter school. That was eye-opening. Currently, I’m an educational advisor at a local university. I enjoy what I do.
  4. I’m also a graduate student working toward my masters in English. I’d love to teach at the college level some day.
  5. I’ve never been published. I hope to do that someday. I’ve actually hardly completed any pieces of writing aside from a few short stories and non-fiction pieces. I’m hoping that this website will push me to do so.
  6. Other things I enjoy (in no particular order): scarf weather, driving in the country with the windows down, the month of October, coffee shop-book store combos, Instagram, my handful of truly good friends.

That sums it up. Just about. Come back and visit me every so often. I’m just getting started.